otismo wrote: June 9th, 2026, 8:39 pm
if you were destined to be here, you should be here - besides, how else could you see my oscillator
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peak oscillator
so i don't know the full extent of the situation but from what i can gather, NNlk05 has told B468S02357 to get off of discord, because B468S02357's age on the forums is set to 11. NNlk05 did this in public instead of reporting B468S02357, and B468S02357 says that this is NNlk05 making a scene instead of just reporting them.
first, i myself do not agree with a universal lower age limit of 13 for discord. the private messaging feature can be locked for those under 13, and individual servers which are unsafe for those that young can implement their own age limits, but for servers like conway's game of life where several lifenthusiasts joined conwaylife.com when they were under 13 (like me!), i feel like it would be rather safe to let people under 13 to be on the server to see how they act.
admittedly, i shouldn't have really been on the discord server the day i turned 13 because *i* was still a bit immature. however, we cannot claim the same thing for B468S02357 or any other people under the age of 13 who happen to gain interest in conway's game of life. i believe NNlk05 had a good intention, wanting everyone to follow the rules so nothing bad happens. that is a genuine good intention, but it can lead to cases like this where NNlk05 publicly told B468S02357 about how B468S02357 was breaking the rules.
B468S02357 interpreted that as NNlk05 bullying them, and had a completely understandable reaction. when joining a new community, it is very easy to feel like you aren't welcome. in this case, unless i am missing any knowledge, B468S02357 hasn't done anything wrong and should still be accepted in this community.
however, this ties directly into the problem of ageism in a digital-based society, where people just a few years below a seemingly arbitrary age limit can feel excluded just because they tried joining a community and they pushed them away seemingly for no reason but their age. i have experienced this too, i even made a discord account when i was 12 (not the same one i used when i was 13), and got kicked off the servers for this game i liked called "elemental" just because of a suspicion they had of me. a suspicion.
i don't really have any way to end this post :
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